The Lion’s Whisperer: Case of Touching the Shadow 72


Right after 2 camera men or guys doing the story say: “they smell fear” and drive off because the lions started to attack them: Kevin Richardson (the lion’s whisperer) says regarding his interaction with the lions:

 

“The interactions have always been boisterous. They have never bitten… Well how do u know if one day = one day… I’ve seen people with incredible relationships end in tears. Because I KNOW I DON’T REACT. SO I’VE ALMOST LEARNT HOW TO DE-TUNE MY REACTIONS. But u tell somebody don’t react and they go like Whoa… no 2 lions are the same. To me its like looking at 2 different human beings.”

 

Not Reacting & Not Generalising  

He goes onto explain how he had them from little cubs and how the mother basically rejected them and how he became their mother. And how they would jump on him from very little and never stopped etc etc. Showing here that he could interpret their actions toward him in a different light than others and thus he didn’t have to react with fear (or aggression) and prejudice as others would. The idea that each cat is unique neutralises the theorising or generalising regarding Lions which would fuel pre-dispositions and thus prejudice which lie thus at the heart of this projection. And projection is at the heart of reaction which is always caught in the fight or flight binary. Obviously there’s also a way to not react by repression. But this approach to not reacting would be when we don’t interpret or project anymore on the Lions or anything else for that matter.

 

Whispering is Reflective

This de-tuning from reaction of the Lion’s whisperer (Kevin Richardson) reminds me of the method of the dog’s whisperer Cesar Milan which also is based on a such a form of changing our reactions mindfully and in moving from (whispering) a more centred place. This is what the practice of touching the shadow is premised on, i.e., changing and being mindful of our interpretations on which our reactions are based… Milan speaks of going between the reactive modes really, which is the binary poles of fight or flight. He talks about being calm but assertive.

I propose here in my interpretation that whispering is different to the classical “talking-to” or getting them to do what we want. It’s more by not colouring in…innerstanding and indwelling. Notice here how Kevin Richardson says over and over how he is part of their community. he is now one with them. he even says they see him as another Lion. This cannot if we are reacting and projecting and theorising about etc etc. he is their mother. This is why whispering is such a powerful symbol and way of describing this relationship.

Notice good here that lion & dog (and Horse) whisperer here are really mastering themselves beyond trying to master the lion or the dog.

 

Reflexive vs Reflective Practice

It is really not a practice where we do something to the “other” in first instance. This is really the way we should train our teachers…(and all our professionals in these areas of training, management, counselling, coaching etc).

When we are in that non-reactive zone…in ourselves than we can whisper and so to speak there’s a becoming one with. Than when we bend the spoon bends. So it is really going back to a reflective method or meditative method while in the west most methods are reflexive, meaning we do something firstly to the other, the child, the employee, the dog. Teachers via practices like positive or conscious discipline focus no matter what on the children, employees etc. In trainings for managers like “The Speed of trust”, managers are taught ways and behaviours on how to make the employee true them. But the reflective approach is do I trust me? Am i self deceiving…?

My method of touching the shadow has often been brought to my attention resembles Hoʻoponopono which is indeed a meditational practice in the sense of of it being a self-reflective practice. The story is that the practitioner (psychiatrist) walked around the ward and whereas typical western practitioners would do something to the patients, all he did for six months was remain mindful of his own prejudices (in my terms projections) and heal them. And at the end of those 6 months all the patients were discharged. When he got there they were virtually in shackles.

Touching the shadow is really self management or self mastery and a reflective practice; where-as most classical approaches to training, teaching, coaching, management…are based on doing something to the other in first instance. More often than not looking more like operant conditioning and thus coercion than whispering.

I have worked many years coaching teachers, managers, sport coaches etc. in this deeper self form (of whispering) beyond didactical principles where basically skills are trained on what to do to the classroom, students, employees etc. But where there’s no focus on self management/mastery which is where the real action of the Lion’s and dog’s whisperers is.

This week I’m having several sessions with teachers called in to aid and coaching them how to deal with problematic students and behaviour in which this approach will be shared. I will be showing them via myself to become whisperer’s of their students.

dimitrihalleycenter.com

 


Leave a comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

72 thoughts on “The Lion’s Whisperer: Case of Touching the Shadow

  • Kik for Windows

    Hello there, I am so happy I came across your blog, I actually found you by accident, when I was searching on Digg for kik desktop. Anyhow I am here now and would just like to say thanks a lot for a wonderful posting and the all round thrilling site (I likewise enjoy the design), I don’t have the time to look over it completely at the minute but I have bookmarked it and moreover added in your RSS feeds, so once I have time I’ll be returning to look over more. Please do keep up the fantastic job.

  • Darwin Horan

    I just arrived right here from another web address about Ventana Capital Inc and thought I might check out this page. I enjoy the things I see thus now I am following you. Getting excited about looking at your website again.

  • go to this site

    I just want to tell you that I am just newbie to blogging and site-building and certainly liked you’re blog site. Very likely I’m planning to bookmark your blog . You definitely come with good stories. Many thanks for sharing your blog.

  • auto like facebook

    Thanks a lot for the great posting! I actually liked finding out about it.I’ll make sure to take note of this blog and definitely will return in the future. I would really like to encourage you to keep going with the excellent posts, maybe think about how to get more likes on instagram also, have a fine morning!

  • LGV was formerly known as HGV

    Our LGV (Large Goods Vehicle) HGV training is based in East London, and our LGV/ HGV courses are taught by qualified DVSA LGV & HGV trainers. LGV was formerly known as HGV, where it used to be referred to as HGV Class 2 (now called LGV Category C) and HGV class 1 (Now called LGV Category C+E).

  • Watch Tv shows Online

    There are actually amazing modifications on the design of the page, I definitely like this. My website is relating to movies online and generally there are lots of things to do, I’m yet still a newbie in web development. Take good care!

  • John Deere Service Manuals

    Aw, this became an incredibly nice post. In idea I would like to set up writing like that additionally – taking time and actual effort to generate a great article… but what / things I say… I procrastinate alot through no means appear to get something completed.

  • Metroclick

    MetroClick specializes in building completely interactive products like Photo Booth for rental or sale, Touch Screen Kiosks, Large Touch Screen Displays , Monitors, Digital Signages and experiences. With our own hardware production facility and in-house software development teams, we are able to achieve the highest level of customization and versatility for Photo Booths, Touch Screen Kiosks, Touch Screen Monitors and Digital Signage. Visit MetroClick at http://www.metroclick.com/ or , 121 Varick St, New York, NY 10013, +1 646-843-0888

  • Faytech

    MetroClick specializes in building completely interactive products like Photo Booth for rental or sale, Touch Screen Kiosks, Large Touch Screen Displays , Monitors, Digital Signages and experiences. With our own hardware production facility and in-house software development teams, we are able to achieve the highest level of customization and versatility for Photo Booths, Touch Screen Kiosks, Touch Screen Monitors and Digital Signage. Visit MetroClick at http://www.metroclick.com/ or , 121 Varick St, New York, NY 10013, +1 646-843-0888

  • Pozycjonowanie w Google

    Whats up very nice web site!! Man .. Beautiful .. Wonderful .. I will bookmark your web site and take the feeds also…I am glad to seek out numerous helpful info here in the publish, we’d like develop more techniques on this regard, thanks for sharing.

  • Pozycjonowanie Stron w Google Cena

    Great – I should definitely pronounce, impressed with your web site. I had no trouble navigating through all the tabs and related information ended up being truly easy to do to access. I recently found what I hoped for before you know it at all. Quite unusual. Is likely to appreciate it for those who add forums or something, website theme . a tones way for your client to communicate. Nice task.

  • sewa boom lift

    I have been exploring for a little for any high quality articles or blog posts on this kind of area . Exploring in Yahoo I at last stumbled upon this site. Reading this information So i am happy to convey that I’ve an incredibly good uncanny feeling I discovered exactly what I needed. I most certainly will make certain to do not forget this web site and give it a look regularly.

  • varmepumpeoversikt.no

    I’m seriously loving the theme of your weblog. Do you come across any web browser compatibility troubles? A few of my site readers have lamented regarding my best heat pump website not operating the right way in Internet Explorer yet looks fantastic in Firefox. Have you got any suggestions to help repair this issue?

  • amin

    I am extremely impressed with your writing skills and also with the layout on your blog. Is this a paid theme or did you modify it yourself? Either way keep up the excellent quality writing, it’s rare to see a great blog like this one nowadays..

  • News

    Hello, you used to write fantastic, but the last few posts have been kinda boring… I miss your super writings. Past several posts are just a little out of track! come on!

  • News

    I got what you intend, thanks for posting .Woh I am delighted to find this website through google. “If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable.” by Seneca.

  • News

    Unquestionably believe that which you said. Your favorite justification appeared to be on the web the simplest thing to be aware of. I say to you, I definitely get annoyed while people consider worries that they just do not know about. You managed to hit the nail upon the top and also defined out the whole thing without having side-effects , people can take a signal. Will probably be back to get more. Thanks

  • News

    I think this site contains some real great info for everyone :D. “Believe those who are seeking the truth doubt those who find it.” by Andre Gide.

  • hammer of thor

    A person essentially lend a hand to make critically articles I’d state. That is the first time I frequented your website page and thus far? I amazed with the research you made to make this actual publish extraordinary. Excellent task!

  • Tworzenie Stron Www Kurs

    Thank you for the sensible critique. Me & my neighbor were just preparing to do a little research on this. We got a grab a book from our area library but I think I learned more clear from this post. I’m very glad to see such magnificent info being shared freely out there.

  • ÇáÚÇÈ ßÑÉ ÇáÞÏã

    I absolutely love your site and find many of your blogposts to be just what I’m in need of. Do you offer guest writers to create material for you? I would not mind writing an article relating to new games or possibly on a lot of the things you are writing about here. Awesome site!

  • harga beton ready mix 2017 surabaya

    Hiya, I am really glad I’ve found this information. Nowadays bloggers publish only about gossips and internet and this is actually frustrating. A good web site with interesting content, that is what I need. Thanks for keeping this web site, I’ll be visiting it. Do you do newsletters? Cant find it.

  • freight forwarder bangkok

    Thanks a lot for your superb content! I seriously enjoyed it.I will remember to save this website and will often return later on. I would like to encourage you to ultimately keep going with the nice work, maybe talk about shipping companies also, have a great morning!

  • Handyman

    I actually wanted to make a remark to thank you for these remarkable recommendations you are giving at this site. My incredibly long internet research has at the end of the day been paid with sensible concept to share with my family. I would say that most of us visitors are rather endowed to exist in a wonderful community with so many awesome people with great plans. I feel rather privileged to have used your entire web page and look forward to so many more pleasurable minutes reading here. Thank you once more for a lot of things.

  • Resources

    It is actually nearly close to impossible to come across well-updated viewers on this niche, still, you appear like you fully understand which you’re talking about! Appreciate It

  • cool tee shirts cheap

    Thank you so much for providing individuals with an extraordinarily memorable chance to read critical reviews from this site. It is often very kind and as well , packed with amusement for me and my office fellow workers to visit your site no less than thrice in one week to read the fresh issues you have got. Not to mention, I’m also at all times fulfilled with your terrific knowledge you serve. Selected 3 areas on this page are clearly the most impressive we have all had.

  • mesothelioma law

    You are absolutely right. I really liked looking through this article and I will certainly come back for more as quick as possible. My own internet site is dealing with mesothelioma symptoms lawsuit, you might take a look if you’re still interested in that.

  • her explanation

    I really have to share it with you that I am new to posting and thoroughly valued your information. Quite possibly I am prone to save your blog post . You simply have magnificent article information. Be Grateful For it for share-out with us the best domain article

  • basics

    You’ll find it nearly unattainable to encounter well-updated users on this matter, however , you seem like you comprehend what exactly you’re revealing! Excellent

  • click site

    I was excited to uncover this web site. I want to to thank you for ones time for this particularly fantastic read!! I definitely savored every bit of it and I have you book-marked to see new things on your website.

  • rental mobil bandung

    When I originally commented I clicked the -Notify me when new feedback are added- checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get 4 emails with the same comment. Is there any manner you can remove me from that service? Thanks!

  • Cheap Custom Made T shirts

    Nice post. I learn one thing more difficult on completely different blogs everyday. It’s going to at all times be stimulating to read content material from other writers and apply a little bit one thing from their store. I’d choose to use some with the content on my blog whether or not you don’t mind. Natually I’ll offer you a hyperlink on your net blog. Thanks for sharing.

  • find out here now

    I’m pretty pleased to find this page. I want to to thank you for your time for this particularly fantastic read!! I definitely enjoyed every little bit of it and i also have you saved as a favorite to look at new stuff on your blog.

  • you can try these out

    I simply wish to inform you you that I am new to having a blog and pretty much loved your work. More than likely I am prone to bookmark your blog post . You undoubtedly have magnificent article information. Be Thankful For it for share-out with us your current website information